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An exposition of the prophecy of Hosea — Jeremiah Burroughs
“Men should be willing that the cause that is between them and their inferiors should be pleaded. God having to deal with poor earthen creatures, might presently have let his wrath out against them and destroyed them. But mark, God is willing to have his cause pleaded with vile creatures, so that all the while he is pleading there is time and space for them to come in; as if a controversy be between husband and wife, though the one be superior and the other inferior, they think it right to debate it between themselves with meekness and love.
“Let this be given, though it cannot be granted, yet this case will not help his cause; because it can hold good in no other thing but such in which the inferior is subordinate to the superior, and is, by the law of God, subject unto him, — as the daughter, in the matter of her marriage, or the like, is subject unto her parents, and the married wife, in the disposal of domestic goods and affairs, is subject unto her husband; but in matters of religion, and in moral duties, no wife is so subjected unto her husband,… as that they can lose the obligation of their vows and promises”
The Presbyterian’s Armoury: Lex, Rex, or The law and the prince
By George Gillespie (Rutherford?) — moderator of the Assembly
“For the first, there can bee no ordinary enter∣course and commerce or conuersing betweene per∣son and person, but there must be a precedencie on the one part, and a yeelding of it on the other. Now where they be equals, there may be some question, some difficultie, whither shall haue the prioritie, and they take it commonly, as it falleth out, or by turnes. But where there is an apparent inequalitie, there it is without question that the inferiour is to yeeld to the superiour.
Now here the Husband is the Superiour, and the wife the Inferiour, as the Apostle else-where proo∣ueth, both from the Creation, and since the transgres∣sion.
From the Creation, as appeareth by the
By the order of it; in that (a)The man was first crea∣ted, and not the woman, and therefore the man hath the *Birth-right, as the first borne in the family; in regard whereof God speaketh (b) of Eue to Adam, as (c) of Abel to Cain, Thy desire shall be subiect to his; and he shall rule ouer thee. By the manner of it; in that (d)The woman was made of the man, and not the man of the woman:* she had her being at first (e) from him, as their children now haue from them: and in that regard (f) is the woman said to be the image and glo∣ry of the man, as man is the image and glory of God: By the end of it; in that (g)The woman was made for the man, and not the man for the woman”
“Because wives, through the weakness of their sex (for they are the weaker vessels) are much prone to provoke their husbands. So if love is not ruling in the husband, there is likely to be but little peace between husband and wife. Love covers a multitude of imperfections.” p181
“Thus this affection of love is a distinct duty in itself, especially belonging to a husband, and also a common condition which must be joined to every other duty of a husband, to season and sweeten them. His look, his speech, his conduct, and all his actions, in which he has to do with his wife, must be seasoned with love. Love must show itself in his commandments, in his reproofs, in his instructions, in his admonitions, in his authority, in his familiarity, when they are alone together, when they are in company before others, in civil affairs, in religious matters, at all times, in all things. As salt must be first and last upon the table, and eaten with every bit of meat, so must love be first in a husband’s heart, and last out of it, and mixed with everything in which he has to do with his wife. p183
(Gouge explains the details of what this loving headship looks like from chapter 13-18 of “A Holy Vision for a Happy Marriage,” William Gouge, Edited by Scott Brown and Joel Beeke,)